Positions

How to do it: For this position, one partner lies down, flat on their back. The other climbs on top, so they're facing away from the other person's upper body. This creates the illusion of the number 69. (Get it?) Your genitals should be lined up with your partner's mouth, and vice versa. Alternatively, try it in a side-by-side position.

Benefits: This position is one of the best for dual pleasure, as both partners can give and receive oral sex at once.

Make it hotter: Sure, the mouth-to-genitals stuff is the main attraction, but don't shy away from getting handsy, too. Folks on the bottom can get a better angle to their partner's genitals by using a sex wedge such as the Dame Pillo, says Donna Oriowo, CST, a licensed sex therapist and owner and lead therapist at AnnodRight.

How to do it: Near the edge of a bed or bench, the receiver should rest on their hip and forearm and press their thighs together. Then, the giving partner stands and straddles the receiver, entering or grinding from behind.

Benefits: By keeping their legs pressed together during this sex position, the receiver allows for a tighter hold on the giver as they thrust.

Make it hotter: Instead of letting the giver do all the work, the receiver can try thrusting their hips slightly to match the tempo.

How to do it: The giving partner sits on a chair or the edge of the bed; the receiver faces them while seated on their lap.

Benefits: This sex position allows you to control the pace and depth of penetration, says Needle. Plus, being seated adds support, so it’s great for marathon sex sessions.

Make it hotter: Let your fingers (and hands) do the talking. Once seated, you both can put your hands anywhere on each other's bodies to make things more interesting. (Nipple play, anyone?)

How to do it: The receiver gets on all fours. Then, the giver kneels behind them, with their upper body straight up or slightly draped over the receiver.

Benefits: This sex position allows for deep penetration and easier G-spot stimulation.

Make it hotter: Vulva owners can stimulate the clitoris with one hand, or ask their partner to do the finger work for them. "Temperature play can happen here, too," says Oriowo. "Grab an ice cube and slowly run it down the spine of your partner."

How to do it: The receiving partner lies down on their side. Then, the giving partner kneels between their thighs, straddling their bottom leg. The receiver's top leg then rests on one of the giver's thighs.

Benefits: With the pretzel dip position, you get the deeper penetration of doggy style while still being able to make eye contact with your partner. Vulva owners who don't love a ton of penetration can, alternatively, have the giver grind up against them, stimulating their clit.

Make it hotter: Add nipple clamps into the mix or grab an ice cube and use it on your or your partner's nipples, says Oriowo.

How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides, with their mouths facing each other's genitals. You can also lift one another's thighs for easier access, if you catch my drift...

Benefits: If you enjoy spooning sex and 69-ing, this position is the best of both worlds: You can enjoy all the comfort of resting on your side with some mutual oral action. What's not to love?

Make it hotter: With this position, sex pillows are your best friend. Place one between your thighs to keep your legs spread apart, or place one under your neck so your head doesn't get tired.

How to do it: The receiver lies facedown on the bed, legs straight, hips slightly raised. The giver can enter from behind.

Benefits: This sex position creates a snug fit, so the giver's penis or strap-on will feel even larger.

Make it hotter: "This is a great opportunity to nibble or bite on your partner's shoulders and the back of their neck to add additional sensations," says Oriowo.

How to do it: The receiver lies on their back with one leg resting on each of the giver’s shoulders. The giver can enter as they would from the front.

Benefits: For receivers with vulvas, this sex position is awesome because raising the legs narrows the vagina and helps target the G-spot.

Make it hotter: The giver can rock the receiver in a side-to-side or up-and-down motion.

How to do it: Similar to the popular cowgirl sex position, the receiver kneels on top, pushing off the giver's chest and sliding up and down the thighs. But the giver helps by supporting some of the receiver's weight and grabbing their hips or thighs while they rise to meet each thrust.

Benefits: This sex position puts less stress on the receiver's legs, making climaxing easier. Plus, if the giver is a penis owner, it can delay their climax—extending the pleasure sesh.

Make it hotter: Alternate between shallow and deep thrusting to stimulate different nerve endings.

How to do it: The receiver gets on their hands and feet and has the giver pick them up by the pelvis. Then, the receiver grips the giver's waist with their thighs.

Benefits: Aside from being a fabulous arm workout, this sex position can allow for super-deep penetration. (After all, the receiver's legs are literally wrapped around the giver.)

Make it hotter: Arm strain can seriously kill the mood, so if you're enjoying a longer session, the receiving partner can try resting on a table or the side of the bed to give their arms a break.